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What is a People Pleaser?

Darryl Bachmeier Sep 12, 2019 Social

Perhaps you find yourself in situations that you do not want to be in but can’t seem to say ‘no’ to the person. Perhaps you feel used by others. These are the tell-tale signs of a people pleaser. If you resonate with any of the above statements, then this article is for you. What is a People Pleaser? A people pleaser is a person that will go to all lengths to please others. They are willing to do anything for others just to please them and make others like them, even if it is sacrificing their mental health and wellbeing. How to check whether You Are a People Pleaser? People pleasers can be identified via the following points. Check them to see if any of them resonate with your person: The constant need for validation. (Trying their best to do whatever the other person needs.) Constantly finding oneself in an...

How-to-Not-Pick-Sides

Darryl Bachmeier Sep 8, 2019 Social

It would help if you never underestimate the impact that one decision can cause to your life. A single wrong decision can ruin a life, a career, or a relationship. For that reason, we must make the right decision to maintain peace and happiness in our lives. There are times when confusion might feel the decision we would like to make. The pros and cons on both sides might be way too harsh for us to take. Hence, it would be best not to pick sides. In this post, we will learn essential factors on how not to pick sides. They include: Pay Attention to Signs The first rule is to open up to the most probable signs. The universe often offers us with specific guiding signs that we tend to ignore or even neglect. Some of these signals are obvious while others are hidden, but they are usually valuable...

Why We Need To Curb Our Innate Urge To Gossip

Darryl Bachmeier Sep 7, 2019 Social

Have you ever found yourself in the midst of gossip? Being the target of gossip can be a harrowing experience, and we all recognise that. But when the arrow is not pointed at us, gossip doesn’t seem all that bad. In fact, it is quite pleasing or even exciting. However, even when you are not the target of gossip, it could affect your life in more ways than you can imagine. So let’s try to understand how gossip works and set ourselves free from its invisible shackles. What Exactly Is Gossiping? Even though the word ‘gossip’ has negative connotations, it is actually a much broader term than we realise. To put it simply, gossiping is the act of discussing a person’s nature or traits in the absence of the person. It can be good or bad, depending on the intention of the people engaged in the discussion. How Is Gossip...

Dealing with Passive-Aggressive behaviour at the workplace

Darryl Bachmeier Aug 25, 2019 Social

You are assigned a task which is very crucial for your next promotion. You take a lead and assign different parts to the rest of the team members. On the day of your presentation, one member doesn’t show up. Your presentation is ruined. Next day, he comes to the office; you expect him to be apologetic rather he turns out to be sarcastic and says he wasn’t given a fair share in the project. The above situation is a perfect example of passive-aggressive behaviours and must have happened to many people at the workplace with a very little variation. The workplace is all about emotions and strong feelings. Some get promoted, others don’t. Some get pay raise, some don’t. Some are lucky enough to achieve their life goals easily while others struggle their entire lives and still fail to reach the desired level. Apart from this, the policies at the...

What are the Masks we wear?

Darryl Bachmeier Aug 19, 2019 Social

Many of us living life behind a mask. A mask of self-confidence, confidence, power, wholeness, performance, etc., when we hide who we really are? The problem with masks is that when they become the norm, we lose ourselves in trying to please others. When someone describes a person as a “mask wearer” the meaning is usually negative, but there are appropriate times and reasonable reasons for wearing the mask. The reasons for wearing a mask are both positive and negative, and some of the reasons include: To hide fear To Cover Anxiety To be liked and accepted To cover vulnerability Sad to cover sadness/depression Happiness to hide happiness Cheat To cover up your Anger To show masculinity/femininity Manipulating Why are masks helpful? Masks can also be helpful in social settings. We wear them often to make the conversation easier. Think small talk - no one will care, but it makes...

Ways to Use Socratic Questioning to Improve your Conversations

Darryl Bachmeier Aug 16, 2019 Social

The Socratic question (sometimes referred to as the Socratic Method) involves a decent and thoughtful conversation between two or more individuals. By using consistently focused and open-ended questions, we can open our trust and the confidence of others. In education, we can remove the concept of ‘sage on the stage’ even if it is temporary. Instead, the teacher pretends to be dumb and acts ignorant of the matter. The student, rather than being inactive, actively helps to push the conversation forward. Rather than teaching in the usual sense, the lesson is not planned, often without a pre-defined goal; Conversation can go its own way and is open to the teacher and students. How to ask the Socratic questions? Using the Socratic Question is a useful conversation shared between the teacher and the student, or the therapist and the client. According to Professor Rob Reich, the ideal environment is one of...

Power of the Unspoken Word - Do Your Actions Speak Louder?

Darryl Bachmeier Aug 12, 2019 Social

Communication is perhaps the most primitive of all human activities there is. And it has been constantly evolving ever since, providing people with more ways to express their feelings or convey their messages. However, human communication remains subjective and complex – a single word can have 101 meanings and the odds of a misunderstanding to happen between two communicating humans remains high. The more that our world is becoming interconnected, the more divided we are. And the more that we gain freedom in expressing our thoughts, feelings, convictions, and aspirations, the more we experience solitude and discrimination. What has become of human communication? Understanding communication (and its related behaviors and triggers) is a broad topic to discuss The Power of the Unspoken Word Everything is conceived in the mind. And all the while you thought they remain there until you say it, well, you’re wrong. Without you realizing it, you...

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