Thoughts become things. Have you heard of that phrase? Well, it exists for a reason. Your mind actually creates your reality. Of course, it doesn’t mean that our minds can alter the physical world. Still, what it does mean is that what dominates your thoughts becomes your reality. This is because thoughts actually generate emotions, and what do emotions generate? They generate interpretations, which then generate experiences. And what are experiences than your very reality?
Just think about it. How about people that have financial difficulties? They think about it all the time until they become chronically anxious. In addition, they start doubting themselves and start thinking they don’t have the ability to make it in this world. It leads to hopelessness, which causes them to search for sources of income that are at the same level as their self-esteem – low. The thing about them is that they don’t dare to think big. That is why they keep having these problems.
It’s your dominant thoughts that actually create your reality. Don’t worry about it, because there is a way to control your mind. There are techniques that you can practice every day, especially when you have a bad experience. The thing about thoughts is that they are repeating. You might be having thoughts that you had a week before, yesterday, or even the last 5 years. The fact that thoughts are so habitual is what makes it hard to realize that you’re having them. It’s even worse when you don’t understand that you’re being affected by those thoughts.
These automatic thoughts that you’re having are just the way your mind deals with the past. Self-limiting beliefs such as “I can never make enough money” or “I will never find love” are constrained. They constrain your thought processes, so it turns out it’s like a dog chasing its own tail. You breathe automatically, and that is the same way your mind generates thoughts. Remember how important it is to be aware of your breathing? Well, being aware of your thoughts is even more important! Once you become aware of something, you can control it.
Here’s how you can finally become aware of the dominant thoughts:
1. Watch your thoughts and don’t get involved with them
Take a second to imagine that you’re sitting on a bench at the park. A lot of people are walking by, and they do come into your awareness when they came into view. Still, soon, another person walks by, and the ones you saw are forgotten. When it comes to watching your thoughts, it’s basically the same thing. You don’t engage with every person that walks in the park, and just like that, you don’t need to engage all your thoughts. Just watch them. It will take some time and practice, but you’ll achieve to become familiar with the dominant thoughts you’re having. If you don’t, you’ll have a really hard time with creating positive change. An efficient way to manage this task is to shoo those thoughts with a simple word, “Next!”
2. Pay attention to your feelings
Let’s be honest, besides when you’re meditating, you hardly have time for watching your thoughts. Your life is busy, and there are a lot of things going on. Who could find time to pay attention to every single thought? Well, it’s something that you’re doing for yourself that will beneficially affect your life, so you got to make time for it. Still, there are other ways to become aware of your dominant thoughts that you can try. One of those ways is paying attention to your feelings. Don’t forget that thoughts generate feelings. That is why it’s crucial for you to notice your negative emotions when they happen. Once you notice such an emotion, take a second to remember what you have been thinking about. What was on your mind before you started to experience this negative emotion? Most likely, it was an automatic thought that’s centered around one of those self-limiting beliefs that you need to get rid of.
3. Take a look at your life
Taking a good long look at your life isn’t as easy as it sounds. Still, it’s something you have to do for yourself in order to change your reality. Try to be objective when you do it and ask yourself some questions. For instance, do you always end up in an unwanted situation? Do you always blame others for your misfortune? Are you healthy, in a good relationship, successful and financially stable? Do you feel empty or fulfilled? Are you so terrified of anything unknown that you get stuck in bad situations? Do you work on achieving your goals or let them slip away? Identify the areas of your life that you need to work on, then start working backward. You do so by identifying the thoughts that got you there. When you start changing your thoughts, you’ll see that your life is changing as well, and for the better!