When you should Apologize

Darryl Bachmeier
May 12, 2019

Apologizing means feeling sorry for something wrong that you have done by intention or by mistake, and admitting your fault while making sure to not repeat the action.

Words are not just enough when you say “I am sorry”, to apologize in a real sense you need to feel empathetic for the other person who suffered because of you.

Apologies can take many forms in different situations.

A person either apologizes when he/she wants to get out of a discussion and to avoid further chaos.

In other cases, a person may feel burdened by doing wrong with others and will apologize just to relieve his guilt.

Or an apology could be a sarcastic way of telling the opponent that you are no more interested in the deal.

But the real apology should be from the heart, and a person should only apologize if he thinks his mistakes harm society and someone’s overall life.

Why should you apologize?

Apologizing for your mistakes is an important factor in your personality representation and tells a lot about your nature and preferences.

  • Apologizing for your mistakes can save a relationship from ending, where ego can make things worse, an apology can neutralize the situation and can bring you closer to your loved ones.
  • When you apologize, it is an indication that you are accepting responsibility for your mistake, and you are not a coward to find an escape from the mess you have created. It is a confession from your side that you feel guilty and your intention is not of a negative person.
  • Your apology can emphasize your social role, making you worth obtaining relief or if you broke a law in your society you can pay the penalty of it, however, the penalty of breaking some rules could be just a sincere apology.
  • You might get negative vibes from the person who you hurt, but if you apologize all the negativity in others’ minds about you gets neutralized and you are presented to them as a nice and forgivable entity.
  • Apologizing also builds a sense of trust among friends, it signifies your interest in the bond and that you are willing to keep the friendship despite the mistakes and misunderstandings that come across.

Why is it difficult to say sorry?

It takes a big heart and a sane mind to understand the situation and admit your mistakes. A lot of people these days will make mistakes without even knowing that they are harming someone or that they are disturbing someone’s peace of mind. It usually happens if you have a rigid personality and you cannot accept others’ opinions.

What if you don’t apologize?

If you make a mistake and don’t apologize for it, the indication is that you are a toxic person who is not providing any value to people’s lives but is after destroying the peace and harmony of the system.

This behavior of not feeling guilty for your wrongdoings encourages you to do more similar and devastating acts that could result in inequity and law disrespect in society.

By not apologizing you make the mistake a norm and for the people you get inspiration from you also start trending the same acts specifically if you are a public figure. This means with fame comes great responsibility and the more famous you are the more accountable you should be.

Why should you not apologize?

Although an apology is a nice gesture to act well in a situation, there are some circumstances where your apology can make harm rather than benefit society.

  • Apologizing for someone else’s mistakes is the worst thing to do because in this way the person you committed the mistake will feel free and blame you again for other mistakes because he sees you as a humble person to hike on. So just don’t let someone feel comfortable making an error without even feeling the need to apologize.
  • If you apologize in a relationship that can become more toxic and depressing after you put forward your nice gestures, just don’t say sorry. Yes, you should never say sorry if you don’t mean it and saying it just for saving a toxic relationship.
  • Don’t be sorry for being yourself, that’s alright if you are the weirdo in the group and your peers mind it if you behave unusually. Look! It is your life, you have the right to live it the way you want to. Don’t be sorry to your peer’s group for not fulfilling their personality goals.
  • Never say sorry for making a positive impression of yourself in society. If you commit a mistake or break a law but deep inside you think you did the right thing, don’t be sorry for it in front of people or you are faking an apology that can be injurious to others.

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