Living a Balanced life

Darryl Bachmeier
Mar 19, 2020

Living balanced life. Zen stones statue balance on rocks near the ocean.

Do you feel like you are juggling many roles in your life? Let us face it, many of us struggle to have a successful career while maintaining a happy family as well as trying to have fun in the process.

The truth is, the chase for wealth is often a priority of ours since we are doing it for our family as well… In addition, how could we afford to have fun if we were not so dedicated to our jobs? Our own well-being tends to be neglected in the process. The truth is, no matter how hard we work, only a few of us afford the luxury of having a balanced life.

When I think about a person whose life is not balanced, I imagine a woman talking on the phone while holding a bag of groceries and closing the car doors with her leg. It seems like she is trying so hard to have everything under control… yet her bag of groceries falls, and her phone conversation is ended too soon.

Her kids are running towards her telling her about their day while she is trying to think of what to say to her boss. Alternatively, maybe a man who is sitting in his office working late again and missing another birthday. Sounds familiar? I know, I have had many days like this.

We strive to have a successful professional and personal life, but things sometimes get out of hand. Our work gets in the way of being there for our family, or we neglect our career to be with them. It seems like we do not even have time to stop to think about ourselves for a change. Sometimes it seems like you cannot have it all. However, I beg to differ.

With a little organization and prioritizing, you can have your cake and eat it too. A balanced life is when you consider all aspects of your life. Do you think you can do that? Let me help.

Set your priorities

The most important thing that you need to do is to set your priorities. What means the most to you? Is it being the best parent in the world? Is it having a very successful career? Maybe it is maintaining a home, enjoying a romantic relationship, or getting further education. Whatever it is, you need to think about it and schedule your time accordingly. If what means the most to you is being a great parent, set aside time every night to read your kids a bedtime story instead of working late hours.

There is always a solution

You can always try to negotiate flex hours if possible. Maybe even consider the option of part-time work. Is your family the part of your life that you prioritized, and you are sacrificing your career? Why not try to limit after-school involvements? Your kids do not need to have so many different activities at a time. Why don’t you get your kids involved in your work? Tell them it matters to you and bring them to see where you work. You can always find a solution as long as you set your priorities.

Start planning and doing things in advance

I do not know about you, but I love planners, calendars, and keeping track of everything, I have to do. Whenever I can, I cross things off the list before the “deadline”. The thing about doing things in advance is that you always feel like you are one-step ahead. It is the best feeling in the world. Maybe the reason why you do not have a balanced life is that you do not plan things. Make a family calendar and put it on the fridge. If you are the one who does the cooking, make meals during the weekend and keep them in the refrigerator so you can reheat them on busy days. However, do not forget to plan it first and write down the shopping list.

Try time blocking

Some people work better when there is a time limit. That is why time blocking was invented, and it is a great way to get things done faster. When you have a task to do, set a timer for time you are going to spend on it. Then do it until the time runs out. Make a challenge of how fast you can get everything done. You will be surprised.

Do not forget to take time for yourself

Sometimes, we manage to balance our career and family, but we completely neglect ourselves. Set aside a time when you will be taking care of yourself and yourself only. How about a fitness class? No matter how tired you are, get yourself to work out. It will make you feel better, and it is good for your health. Still, you do not have to work out all the time. After the kids are in bed, make yourself some popcorn and watch your favorite TV show. Go for a walk on a sunny day and both literary and metaphorically stop to smell the flowers. Only when you take care of yourself will you be able to take care of others.

Make time for your partner

It is important that you be there for the important moments in your kids’ lives, but your partner also needs you. Set aside some time to act like a couple. Whether you are watching a movie or enjoying a dinner at your favorite restaurant, you need to be together. After all, you can always book a baby-sitter for a few hours. Even if you call in sick just because of romance, I am not going to tell anyone.

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