Focus on the good in others

Darryl Bachmeier
Jun 9, 2020

Don’t you want to live a positively present life? Well, finding the good in others is an essential part of it. However, it can be challenging. It’s especially hard to focus on the good in others when you’ve been disappointed so many times… But let me tell you a secret – when you expect good from others, they feel more motivated to actually do good. Maybe you disagree, but I think that all people are essentially good. Just focus on their intentions if you don’t believe me. Even when people don’t do good things, most of the time, they did have good intentions.

Focusing on the good in others isn’t about putting rose-colored glasses on. It’s about taking the smug-colored glasses off and seeing things clearly for the first time in a while. The truth is, when you focus on the good in others, you aren’t ignoring the facts, you’re accepting them. Don’t let your personal opinions get in the way of what the truth is. The truth is that most people are good, and they are hoping for someone to see the good in them.

What’s the most important thing about all this is that you’ll feel better once you focus on the good in others! You’ll have a more positive outlook on life, and by expecting good things, you’ll invite them into your life. Just think of the people who generalize things and how bad they are actually feeling. Haven’t you heard about the saying, “All men/women are the same”? Well, that’s a toxic statement that makes you lose faith in people. So, by expecting bad things from others, you’re actually causing them to happen.

Always try to focus on the good in others, and you’ll see how your view on life will start changing. You’ll think and feel more positive. The best part is that people will be grateful for it. The more you look for the good in others, the more you’ll see it. Don’t make yourself blind to the goodness of humankind cause it’s not good for you. Let’s see how you can find good in others and focus on it:

  1. Stop comparing a person to others or to yourself

It’s easy to find faults in others when you start comparing them to yourself or to someone else. What you need to realize is that all of us are different. So, if you’re hoping for someone to be just like someone else or like you, you won’t be able to see the good in them. And what happens when you don’t see the good in them? Well, you can’t really appreciate them! This is especially significant when it comes to romantic relationships. Don’t ever compare your partner to some you used to love cause you’ll never find the good in your relationship. So, stop comparing people, and you’ll see the good in them!

  1. Don’t dwell on what the person has done in the past

When you dwell on what the person has done in the past, you won’t be able to focus on the person they are today. You need to focus on the present in order to focus on the good in others. Of course, you don’t need to forget what they did, but if they have made progress or made up for their wrongdoings, stop holding grudges. It’s damaging for a relationship. The truth is, people change, so to see good in them, you need to look at who they are now, not who they were in the past.

  1. Stop making assumptions about the person

Do you make assumptions when you don’t know someone? Well, you won’t see the good in them if you keep doing that. Keep your heart and mind open to what they have to say. Don’t label people as good and bad, because just because someone did one bad thing doesn’t mean that they are bad, or that they’ll ever do a bad thing again. When you label people, you keep seeing them with that label and find ways to prove yourself right about them. Don’t do that.

  1. Be interested in the person and keep your mind open

Don’t guess how a person feels or what they think about something, ask them instead. Asking a lot of questions is a road to seeing the good in others. The more you know about them, the more clearly you’ll see the good in them.

  1. Imagine that everyone’s looking out for your best interest

Expect the best intentions from people. It can be hard sometimes, but it will make it easier for you to focus on the good in others. The truth is, most of the time, people do have good intentions. So, maybe they aren’t looking out for you, but they certainly aren’t looking to do you harm. Keep that in mind, and you’ll be able to see the good in them.

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