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  • Can you achieve something by doing nothing? Well, it seems so, but not quite so literally. There is a significant concept of Taoism called Wu Wei. It's Chinese, and it literally translates to "non-doing" or doing nothing. What it stands for is a natural action. That means an action that doesn't involve excessive effort or struggle. Wu Wei is actually the cultivation of a certain mental state in which your actions are very effortlessly in alignment with what we call the flow of life. So, basically, it's going with the flow, and it's characterized by a feeling of great ease when we are spontaneously acting perfectly. It's when you're doing the right thing spontaneously and effortlessly, without even trying.

    Haven't you ever started doing something where everything seemed to just flow, and you felt like you became one with the world? We often refer to it as being in the zone, and it's very similar to what we are talking about now. When you're doing it, it all comes out naturally, but once you start actively thinking about the thing that you're doing, it compromises the state you were in. Wu Wei is on a different level than thinking. It isn't a directive action that comes out of goals and desires.

  • What is the ego? The ego is actually the mind identity that we create, an identity that is above all, false. You have to understand that you are more than your mind. All of us have certain beliefs when it comes to what are we. Those beliefs are about our abilities, our personality, and our talents. It’s what becomes the structure of your ego. Ego is not a static thing, but a dynamic and active part of your personality. It plays a significant role in creating the emotional drama in your life.

    By agreeing to the thoughts you have about yourself, you’re constructing a self-image. There are thoughts that especially contribute to the structure of your ego. Such thoughts sound something like, “I am smart.” “I am not good at sports.” “Nobody loves me.” “My scar makes me ugly.”

    Behind all these mentionings of “I” and “me” hides your ego - just like in all declarative statements and thoughts. When you agree that these thoughts define you, you’re reinforcing or building your ego. So, when did these thoughts first appeared? It’s when you were just a kid who got praised by a parent, or teased by a schoolmate. Developing a self-image is normal, and it’s a part of our socialization, but what happens when that self-image is inaccurate, overly positive, or negative?

  • All of us have thoughts, and throughout life, we have formed some opinions. You can’t help but wonder, how many of those beliefs are based on our understanding and how many are results from social conditioning? You might know a lot of things, but some of those things are from your personal experience, while others come from parrot-like learning. The problem is that critical thinking isn’t stimulated, and it’s that way even when we are going to school.

    Some people never wonder is what the media is telling them actually the truth. And what’s the result of this social conditioning? We have emotional insecurities, and corporations exploit them to sell us services and products. The media that I mentioned earlier uses propaganda tactics to unable us from thinking with our own minds.

    Are you ready to start thinking for yourself? Do you have the courage to escape the mentality of the herd? Social conditioning goes very deep, and it won’t be easy, but there are things that you can do about it right now! Let’s look at what they are.

    1. Start questioning your beliefs

  • Is it possible to make your thoughts your reality? Could it be that we can bring things into our life by belief? Sounds fantastic, and it’s true. The world is actually a reflection of our actions, beliefs, and energy. Our dominant beliefs allow us to filter the world, and our mind is a mechanism that seeks goals. That is why, if you have a vision for what you want your life to be or you have faith that great things exist, your mind will bring the ideas and information that support you in that.

    What you think becomes your reality, so choose your thoughts wisely. If you choose to believe that dream jobs, fantastic opportunities, infinite abundance, and romantic partners exist, you’re inviting them into your life. Acting in accordance with the identity applies to all humans. When you’re trying to create your desires, you have to think, act, and feel like the type of person that already has all the things you desire. What you believe about yourself and your life becomes true for you.

  • What is the opposite of arrogance, aggression, vanity, and pride? It's humility. Humility is the act of being reverential, modest, and politely submissive. It seems like it doesn't leave you any power, doesn't it? Well, it's not true cause humility gives you a lot of power. Aren't you tired of the desire to be right, to impress, and get ahead? Humility offers you freedom from all those desires. What's best about it is that losses and frustrations have less impact. So who is a humble person? It's a person that confidently receives the opportunities to improve, grow, and reject labels that society forces on them. You, too, can lead a humble life, and it is a life that results in compassion, contentment, forgiveness, and patience.

    What is it all about? Humility is actually the attitude or feeling that you are not better than anyone else since you have no special importance. It's basically not having too much pride. But isn't having a lack of pride a bad thing? The answer is straightforward if you only think about the people who are too proud and let their pride influence their life. They lose more than they win with their pride. Such people might think of humility as a weakness instead of a strength, but they are wrong.

  • Have you ever given someone your time or something else, without expecting anything in return? Well, it has been proven that such acts of generosity are good for your health! Isn’t it funny how you feel the need to pay it forward when someone has been generous to you? Research has proved that when you are generous to someone, they will start acting more generously toward other people for some time.

    The thing about generous people is that they are, in fact, healthier. Feeling grateful is for them a permanent state of being. Those who remain so mindfully thankful, rather than people who are temporarily grateful, engage in heather behavior, and are more relaxed, are less often sick, and even have a stronger immune system.

    Isn’t negativity actually easier than gratitude? Well, there are biological reasons for that. Our brains pay attention to stressors, so they focus more on things that might harm us. In modern times, with social media and the internet, it’s even harder to focus on calm and thankfulness. Still, you might manage to do it if you look up to the people that are generous. Cultivate a mindset of generosity and gratitude, and you’ll do a great thing for your health! In what ways can you start expressing generosity in your life? Reflect on it. You can also use a gratitude journal and write down all the things that you are grateful for.

  • Don’t you want to live a positively present life? Well, finding the good in others is an essential part of it. However, it can be challenging. It’s especially hard to focus on the good in others when you’ve been disappointed so many times… But let me tell you a secret – when you expect good from others, they feel more motivated to actually do good. Maybe you disagree, but I think that all people are essentially good. Just focus on their intentions if you don’t believe me. Even when people don’t do good things, most of the time, they did have good intentions.

    Focusing on the good in others isn’t about putting rose-colored glasses on. It’s about taking the smug-colored glasses off and seeing things clearly for the first time in a while. The truth is, when you focus on the good in others, you aren’t ignoring the facts, you’re accepting them. Don’t let your personal opinions get in the way of what the truth is. The truth is that most people are good, and they are hoping for someone to see the good in them.

  • Moments pass, and they can feel like grains of sand slipping through your fingers.  You can try to hold on to them, but you’ll eventually end up standing on the beach and looking at the sand without being able to see every single grain of sand that you held in your hands… What I’m trying to say is that time passes and moments get forgotten or stay in the past behind us. It seems like we learn the importance of cherishing every moment only when something bad happens. Does it really take a tragedy for us to realize that our lives are made of moments?

    Cherish every moment you have with your loved ones, cause they might not always be around. You’ll regret not spending more time with them once you’re unable to. The thing about happiness and sadness is that they both pass. A moment of joy goes by the same way a moment of sorrow does. But you need to cherish every single moment because it’s what makes your life. Your life is made of moments and, unless you cherish them, you’re wasting time.

    It’s hard to think about the fact that we won’t be on this planet forever, and you shouldn’t think much about it. Still, it should make you realize that every moment you have on this earth is important, and you should make it count for something. You can make a conscious effort to cherish moments every day. Here are a few tips on how to do that:

    1. Don’t get bothered by the small stuff

  • Moments pass and are soon forgotten, so what’s the point of them if you’re not going to live in the moment? What it means is being focused on the present and being there, completely in the moment. What’s happening now is all there really is. Forget about yesterday and tomorrow. Be present in the now.

    It requires awareness to master this. Your mind will not wander when you’re fully present and practicing awareness. It means being focused on what is happening right now and forgetting about the past and the future. Thinking about the past is memory, and thinking about the future is fantasy, so you cannot fully experience the moment except when you’re living it.

    Once you stop resisting and become present, you will feel a timeless level of love, contentment, and peace. By staying present in each and every moment, you will start living your life without waiting for the future or holding on to the past. Be grounded and assimilate the experiences. Practice this when you eat. Try to fully enjoy your food. Your life becomes fuller in experience and richer in meaning, the more you practice being present.  

  • Thoughts become things. Have you heard of that phrase? Well, it exists for a reason. Your mind actually creates your reality. Of course, it doesn’t mean that our minds can alter the physical world. Still, what it does mean is that what dominates your thoughts becomes your reality. This is because thoughts actually generate emotions, and what do emotions generate? They generate interpretations, which then generate experiences. And what are experiences than your very reality?

    Just think about it. How about people that have financial difficulties? They think about it all the time until they become chronically anxious. In addition, they start doubting themselves and start thinking they don’t have the ability to make it in this world. It leads to hopelessness, which causes them to search for sources of income that are at the same level as their self-esteem – low. The thing about them is that they don’t dare to think big. That is why they keep having these problems.