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What is Cognitive Restructuring?

Darryl Bachmeier Nov 2, 2020 Emotions

Cognitive restructuring describes a vibrant technique to understand unhappy moods and feelings. It is essential for challenging the wrong and automatic beliefs that result from bad moods. This method can help to reframe the negative thinking that we experience over time. Bad moods can undermine your relationships with family and friends. They can lower your performance quality and they are generally unpleasant. The cognitive restructuring approach will enable you to change the distorted and negative thinking that results from low moods. In other words, it will enable you to approach all matters with a positive mindset. Psychologist Albert Ellis developed the procedure in the mid-1950s. It bases on other psychologist reports, and it is a core component in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). CBT is a unique method that you can use to change and control negative thoughts. A negative mindset is prone to result in damaging behaviors. Therefore, you must...

Do Not Beat Yourself Up

Darryl Bachmeier Oct 24, 2020 Life

Self-Critique or Bullying? We can compare self-criticism with salt; healthy doses of both enhance our taste in life. But anything taken in excess is harmful. The perception of self-critique should not be any different. If you continuously beat yourself up for every minor mistake and underachievement of life, this is high time you stopped!  We all have had these experiences of being humiliated, bullied in our life. There will always be some people giving out negative energy. They will often try to manipulate you into believing that you are a nonstarter. When the world is loaded with toxicities and harsh criticisms anyway, why not be compassionate to yourself?  It is essential to understand the thin line between criticism and bullying. You can sometimes criticize your decision, find fault with your personality traits—but make sure that you are not going too hard on yourself. Learning to hold sway over your overactive...

How to Enjoy Your Own Company

Darryl Bachmeier Oct 22, 2020 Life

Craving for some time with just yourself is not an unusual feeling. In fact, it seems like a necessity sometimes to take care of your mental health. Everyone should spend time with themselves away from others in peace. Then again, the idea of being alone is also scary. Not everyone is comfortable making a solo dinner reservation in a fancy restaurant, and it’s normal to feel uncomfortable. But, if you don’t spend enough time with yourself, you’ll never truly get familiar with your thoughts. Enjoying some alone time will help you let go of relationships and friendships that are toxic. A lot of people cling to toxic companions only because they are afraid to be alone. We know that you’re not a monk who wants to spend life in a mountain away from everyone (Although you might love a tour of the mountains). So, learning to enjoy your alone time...

Teach kids important life values

Darryl Bachmeier Oct 20, 2020 Life

Values are a fundamental part of an individual’s personality and moral upstanding in society. It goes onto determine an individual’s behavior, attitudes and decision-making process. Like all parents, you’d obviously want your kids to pick up the right core values. Here is a set of five values that you should teach your children: Honesty This one is pretty clichéd but it still doesn’t make it any less important. Honesty and truthfulness is probably one of the most important values that determines one’s moral compass and action. Honesty not only applies to being truthful to other people but also being truthful with one’s own self (this is pretty much why the self-improvement industry has boomed) Oftentimes, parents end up lying to other people in front of their kids to avoid difficult situations. Honesty might not always be fruitful, but it is important that the importance of being honest is taught from...

Why are women choosing not to have children?

Darryl Bachmeier Oct 18, 2020 Life

Being a mother, and having children is a blessing like none other. The experience of motherhood is an unforgettable and rewarding journey, yet the number of women who decide not to have children is increasing year by year. On the surface level, a fall in birth rate in major developed countries is an alarming statistic for the long-term demographics of that nation. But what really is causing women across the globe to not have children, and are those reasons justified? Let’s have a look. Being “Childfree” There has always been a negative connotation associated with women who decide not to have children. For a long time, having children, being a mother, and taking care of the household has been considered the epicenter of a woman’s life. Things have been changing now, and one of the ways it is apparent is from the push to change the label of childless to...

Beyond Tradition - Respecting the Elderly

Darryl Bachmeier Oct 16, 2020 Social

They say the journey is more important than the destination. We are all heading the same end of life but what we do while trudging through it can make a difference, even to people we encounter along the way. We will most probably be drawn to have close relationships with people around the same age as we do. But it is also inevitable that we will meet or live with people younger or older than us. Children need our care and guidance while the elderly will cherish our companionship and time. The latter would most probably impact us greater than anyone. Aside from learning from their experience, we get to have a glimpse of our future selves. Nuggets of Wisdom Engaging in conversations with the elderly is a different kind of experience. Somehow, it is almost automatic that they will share pieces of their past lives with us. What starts...

Relationship between Connection and Belonging

Darryl Bachmeier Oct 14, 2020 Social

Humans are social creatures. Not only colleagues, co-workers, acquaintances or Facebook “friends” but also most people have a deep desire to connect with others deeply and closely. We yearn to feel valued and supported. We long to share our thoughts, feelings, and life with others. We want to feel what others need. These desires not only represent the physical or digital presence of others but also reflect a basic human need to associate with them. Whether it is with their partners, their children, a family of birth, everything I see every day as a colleague or an employer at work is all connected and owned. What is the connection? Suppose you think about your day to day, thinking about your relationship with you. In that case, we are disconnected from ourselves when we are not involved in what is happening to us.  We avoid strong situations in our lives or...

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