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Peer Pressure

Darryl Bachmeier Jun 10, 2020 Social
At a party peer pressure teens smoking drinking alcohol and using drugs

No man is an island! Building relationships especially with persons of similar age range is inevitable in life. In fact, it is an important aspect of social conditioning that reflects that as humans, we are bound by some mysterious arrangements to befriend individuals who share similar interests and like-passion with us. These are our peers, our friends. However, identifying with a group of friends or peers comes with its challenges, which are notably associated with the pressure of meeting up with the standards of the group. This could get sour sometimes especially when one is inspired wrongly and pressured to act in a particular way that negates morality simply because one’s mates are acting that way. What exactly is peer pressure? Peer pressure entails the influence members of a similar social group can have on one another. Briefly, it is the case where you desire to be part of something...

Non-attachment

Darryl Bachmeier Jun 10, 2020 Mind
Buddhist monk meditates outside practicing non-attachment

A mystery Wonder why monks or nuns are disinterested in what’s happening in the real world – the entertainments and razzmatazz? Why they linger in solitude and enjoy the peace it offers? Why they are content with having no material possessions such as houses or cars? Or why they don’t delight in attaining positions and yet, are satisfied? The answer isn’t unlikely; it’s simply because they are given to a life of non-attachment. It’s funny how life is riddled in mysteries. These ones (monks and nuns) want nothing but end up with everything – bliss; while those who want everything ends up with nothing. The so called “normal people” struggle to attain self-actualisation without success. The more they try to attain the highest level of bliss, the more it seems they become overwhelmed and withdrawn from it. Anxiety then sets in resulting in frustration, anger, sadness, depression and even, death...

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

Darryl Bachmeier Jun 10, 2020 Life

Motivation Explained Theories provide explanatory basis for all kinds of phenomena; be it social, biological, psychological, or natural. In the field of psychology, several theories have been developed by notable scholars to explain the concept of motivation. Basically, this concept preoccupies itself with how humans act or behave in a particular way and why they do; that is, what inspires or stirs up a certain kind of behavioural output in humans. One of such theory that attempts to provide justifications for why human beings act in specified ways is the Abraham Maslow’s theory of motivation. Maslow’s theory is a content theory of motivation that is, it explains what motivation is and what it is not. This theory explicates motivation from the angle of the dissatisfaction of specified needs arranged in order of precedence. Emphasis is laid on the fact that what motivates human behaviour is the inability to satisfy some...

Looking Inward Versus Looking Outward 

Darryl Bachmeier Jun 10, 2020 Mind

What’s the beauty of life, if not happiness, mirth and comfort? This is the big question most of us struggle to answer every moment of every day of our lives. Admittedly, in pursuit of happiness, we run from pillar to post driven by the wind and forces of the world we live in. How do I look? Am I not better more educated than John, why does he have a good job and mine is wacky? Of course I’m more beautiful than Jane, why can’t my relationship work out like hers? These are questions that bother our minds and fill our thoughts. Unfortunately, we have come to that point where we anchor the foundation of our happiness on self-gratification and the achievements of those around us. We strive for people’s endorsement for our world to make sense and for the star in us to dazzle. We relentlessly look outwards to...

Ikigai - the Reason for Being

Darryl Bachmeier Jun 10, 2020 Life
Young woman stretching outside in nature near mountains and forest

The Realities of Life Often times, life presents you with different challenges – challenges that nearly choke you out of existence. At those crucial moments, the purpose of life becomes bleak and its essence, frustrating. Then, and right there at that crossroad, it dawns on you that the journey of life is full of ups and downs, push and pulls – an indication that life is not at all, a bed of roses. Of course, in life, many forces militate against one’s quest for fulfillment. For some, it is the daily hustle and bustle for survival while for some others; it is the search for a better life, a raised paycheck or an upgraded standard of living. Ikigai: Bouncing Back In reacting to life’s pressures, the Japanese people invented a concept known as ‘Ikigai’ simply translated in English as ‘the reason for being’. The concept is a marriage of two...

How to Make Real Deep Connection with Someone

Darryl Bachmeier Jun 10, 2020 Social
Deep connected life long friends. Happy together. Three young women.

Most of what we have nowadays as relationships are not what it used to be. Now, it seems we all are in a hurry. We are driven by own selfish inclinations. We want to quickly end a conversation and trot off like wasps into the comfort our solitude offers. We seem to have forgotten the value of social capital. Even for those who claim to sustain relationships, research has proven that it’s no more than a superficial endeavour. They aren’t really connected to their cronies. If this wasn’t so, a research on self-isolation in America would not have revealed that most people have just one person or none at all that they share their personal problems with. Indicative of this is that we all have gotten so paranoid! To make matter worse; the social media has contributed in no small measure to reducing real life, person to person interaction into...

Dealing with Setbacks

Darryl Bachmeier Jun 10, 2020 Life
Dealing with setbacks. Failure. Sadness. Depressed man outside in the rain.

Setbacks are normal Are you frustrated because a business you invested your time and money into imploded and there was nothing you could do about it? Or was it a set-target you were supposed to hit that failed? Or perhaps, it’s the case that you keep struggling to make life more reasonable and yet, the more you try, the more unrealistic it becomes? Now you feel downcast and demoralized because you keep rising and falling as the current of life’s storm never cease to rock your boat? Of course, these experiences would have made you realize that the peregrination of life is chequered by vicissitudes. Yes, life is not all bed of roses and at certain times you are bound to face challenges which could occur as minor setbacks or even, as an overwhelming defeat. It is normal! Hence, this piece has been aptly written to help you make the...

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