Blog - page 19

The Art of Saying "No"

Darryl Bachmeier Mar 19, 2020 Productivity

Saying “no” to any proposal, invitation or offer may be quite hard sometimes, even if you have a really good reason to refuse. Many people are finding themself in a situation when they cannot reject any offer because of the authority, social status, and dominant behaviour of the requestor. Is there any possibility to learn how to give a confident refusal? Sure there is! Mix it With a Compliment or Kindness That is the ultimate weapon of every grandparent and parent. “I love you, but you cannot,” sounds much better and polite than just a dry, “I said no.” When you are combining different kinds of compliments, which are perceived positively, with refusing, which are unpleasant for most people, you get a “somewhere in between” result. Example: This sounds extraordinarily interesting, but unfortunately, I have to refuse. Example: You gave a brilliant idea, but it seems that I cannot handle...

Self-Talk - How It Affects Your life - 3 Ways to Keep it Positive

Darryl Bachmeier Mar 19, 2020 Mind

It is not weird for most of us to keep ongoing dialogues within our heads. These dialogues could be range from giving instructions to ourselves, observations about what has been going on around us, or it just could be what is usually referred to as self-talk. Self-talk is your inner voice, the internal narrative that happens inside your head, which you may have spent much time thinking about it. Interestingly enough, our self-talk can actually have a significant impact on the way we see ourselves and the world around us more than we realize. Let us find out how! The Importance of Positive Self-Talk Self-talk is your internal dialogue that affected by your subconscious mind. This internal dialogue interacts with your thoughts, beliefs, and ideas, which can be both positive and negative. However, most of your self-talk relies on your character, sometimes it could be encouraging, and other times may...

Revenge - Why Is It Such A Bad Idea And How To Resist It

Darryl Bachmeier Mar 19, 2020 Emotions
Angry man holds knife ready to stab. Man seeks revenge for wrongdoing.

It is payback time. Someone has done you a harm, and now you want to inflict harm on him or her. You want retribution. We see it all the time in so many movies and TV shows. A man seeks revenge for what has been done to him, and he gets it. Wouldn’t you love the chance to say such powerful words now you get to have your revenge? Does revenge belong in our real lives? We see it as a way of getting closure after we have been wronged, and it can be quite rewarding in the heat of the moment. Still, does it stay rewarding? What it actually does is prolongs the suffering of the original wrongdoing. It means that, instead of healing your wounds, you are keeping them fresh. It re-opens your wounds and aggravates them. Therefore, in reality, you are punishing yourself instead of the one...

Removing fears

Darryl Bachmeier Mar 19, 2020 Mind
Removing fears. Scary demon outside in fog. Man facing his fears.

Let us be honest, our past is a part of who we are. It is a part of our present even, as it has made us who we are today. The fears we have from past relationships influence how we build relationships today. Past failures are like ghosts who haunt us and prevent us from living our lives. We have to be rid of these fears in order to start living. It is time for us to face our demons. If your fears from the past are a part of your present, do not let them be a part of your future as well. Your brain is sending you signals that you should be on the lookout because something terrible from the past is going to happen again. Just believing those thoughts makes your fears come to life and prevent you from enjoying the present. Instead of welcoming new experiences...

Positive Body Image

Darryl Bachmeier Mar 19, 2020 Body
Positive Body Image. Young woman on beach strecthing. Healthy living.

“Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.” You really have to love yourself first to get anything in this world. Even psychologists believe that one must love themself first. Whatever your size may be, whatever your complexion, it is very important to love yourself. Loving yourself boosts your confidence and courage in you. What is self-love? Self-love is the belief that you can do better, you are the best, and you have the power within to conquer the entire world. It is the belief that you are a valuable and worthy person. It makes you love yourself. You feel confident, no matter where you stand or what you look like. You believe that your life is precious, and you are worth it. When you fully accept yourself, including your flaws and imperfections, that is self-love. Why should you love yourself? Loving yourself is one of the most important...

Overcome instant gratification

Darryl Bachmeier Mar 19, 2020 Mind

The urge to eat a whole bar of chocolate in bed. Hitting the snooze button for that extra 5 minutes of sleep. Going out with friends instead of studying. Buying things that you cannot really afford now. The urge to spend all of your time with your partner instead of working on your career. Do you have an instant gratification monkey in your head? When a rational decision-maker holds the wheel, you plan to get some work done. Then instant gratification monkey takes over the wheel, and you end up watching YouTube videos until 4am. As you could read at the beginning, instant gratification can come in many forms. So what is wrong with getting some instant gratification? After all, don’t we live only once? Isn’t life meant to be fully enjoyed? You should enjoy your life, but you should not waste it. Just consider how long you are supposed...

Minimalism- Living with less. How can it make life better?

Darryl Bachmeier Mar 19, 2020 Life
Minimalism interior dinning room. Clean, minimal realxing living space.

The world is growing at such a faster rate that it is very tough to get some time for yourself, your family, and your loved ones. Nowadays, people are so much engrossed in the daily work that they get minimal time for themselves. In the daily schedule of work and job, taking out time for oneself is pretty difficult. However, it is very important to have some fun and enjoyment in life. So, people have been continuously searching and trying to get something that may help them manage all this. A growing trend these days is Minimalism. Some people call it an art, some call it a way of living, while some say that it is a beautiful way to enjoy life. It is about getting rid of all the extra stuff in life and focusing on living life to the fullest. People believe that money is not everything. You...

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