Benefits of Being an Active Listener

Darryl Bachmeier
May 14, 2019
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At some point, we’ve been advocates of free speech. We’ve felt that it is our right to express ourselves or comment on issues that are of public concern. But have you heard of active listening?

In reality, the people who want to voice out are the ones who want to be heard or listened to. The problem is that many people can find confidence in sending their message across but not everyone wants to be at the receiving end.

Just look at the comments section of a controversial news article. It draws many comments, but we rarely find straight answers. Everybody’s clamoring to exercise their freedom of speech, but only a few listen actively to the story and propose solutions.

Importance of Active Listening

Active listening is important in fostering trust among relationships. It also builds up your credibility with people since they know that you listen to them with the intent to understand, not just for the sake of hearing them out.

And, we all want to be with that person who is willing to focus his attention as we speak, and someone who understands the message we want to send across. And we can also be that person for others by practicing active listening.

The end of the conversation doesn’t mean it’s the end of active listening. Most of the time, the results of active listening prompts action. Therefore, active listening is the stepping stone to rewarding relationships.

Another aspect of active listening is gaining profound understanding. Active listening encourages more questions, which doesn’t limit to the initial story of the speaker. Instead, an active listener seeks to dig deeper so he or she can make the right response, or both of them see the picture more clearly.

Active listening is an essential element of successful communication. Successful means that both parties felt satisfied with the outcome. Whether the speaker seeks validation, advice, or a solution, the conversation just achieves that. Active listening helps the listener respond the right way.

Benefits of Active Listening

There are many benefits to learning and practicing active listening. You gain leverage in the workplace, form more rewarding relationships in your lifetime, and create meaningful relationships with people who are most dear to you like your spouse, children, or parents.

Here are more benefits of active listening:

Employers prefer you

Active listening is a soft skill, much like decision-making and critical-thinking. If you don’t have enough experience to back you up, active listening is one of the preferred skills of hiring executives. This shows how receptive you can be with instructions and in criticisms or feedback.

You understand your loved ones better

Admit it, most of the fights we have with our spouses or children involve miscommunication. And most of the time, both of you are racing to speak your pieces without carving the time to listen to each other. Even non-verbally, we produce cues of our inattentiveness, which makes the fight even worse.

But with active listening, we can provide our loved ones with the attention they deserve. Listening to them this way shows that we are interested in them and we value their time. More so, that they are more special than our friends or co-workers for that matter.

You work together to arrive at the most appropriate solution

In times of challenges or struggles, we often resort to people for advice or clarity.

When we actively listen, we collaborate with the person to arrive at the solution that’s appropriate to the situation. This way, both inputs are regarded and both have responsibility for the decision. This keeps us away from the blame game later on.

Also, as they say, ‘two heads are better than one’. Active listening encourages different perspectives on the issue. In terms of solution, it makes sure that the little details count as there are now four eyes on it instead of two.

You form lasting relationships

An active listener’s goal is to understand, that’s it. When people speak to us about something, sometimes, they just want a listening ear that validates their emotions and respects their opinions.

Active listening forms an atmosphere of trust. We all want to feel secure in our environment and once we found it, we become attached. It’s the key to lasting relationships.

You become slow to make judgments

Active listening requires patience. For you to be an effective listener, you have to make as minimal interruptions as possible. The only time that you speak is when the speaker is done, you clarify points, ask questions, validate, or when asked.

Even there’s less verbal explaining, you notice body language and gestures that can give you cues about the person you’re talking to and the message they want to tell. When you treat conversations with proper attention and a patient heart, you become slow to judge.

You can discover something new

Whether it’s about a person we know for a long time or a situation that the person faced, we can learn many things through active listening. We become more attentive to details. This way, people can become more at ease with us that they tend to share more.

Final Thoughts

The benefits of active listening far outweigh personal development; it becomes a lifelong skill that cultivates rewarding relationships. It

We can all be advocates of free speech and active listening. When we do the little things collectively, we can make a big difference.

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