5 Tips To Help Teach Your Children Good Manners

Darryl Bachmeier
May 10, 2019

Good manners can open the doors that even the best education can’t. Good manners are priceless, classless, and ageless.

When I was little, my mom demanded that I say “thank you” for every little thing she gave me. If I forgot, she would take back the gift. She would only return the gift to me after remembering I was supposed to say “thank you.”

I had a voracious appetite for candies and cookies, so I remembered to thank her most of the time. And it’s a trait that has stayed with me over the years.

Though good manners cost nothing, they can help you live a happy and fulfilled life.

How to Teach Your Kids Good manners

Good manners are sensitive knowledge of other people’s feelings. If your children gain that perception, they will have good manners.

Most children understand that other people have feelings just like theirs at eighteen months. So, this is the best time to teach your children that their behavior significantly affects other people.

That’s when you should start letting them know that the world doesn’t revolve around them and that other people have issues they’re facing.

Easier said than done. Right?

You need to understand kids won’t learn good manners overnight. It’ll take a lifetime, but the earlier you start, the better.

What rules did your teachers, guardians, and parents teach you as a child?

Probably they were the same ones my parents struggled to teach me. Our teachers often repeated these phrases until they became annoying;

  • Keep your elbows off the table.
  • Say please whenever you ask something from somebody.
  • Cover your mouth when you are coughing
  • Chew your food quietly.
  • Stop speaking with food in your mouth.
  • Don’t interrupt when someone is speaking.
  • Say thank you after receiving something.
  • Refer to a person by their name and not by “it.”

As a primary caregiver and a parent, helping your children to develop social skills is very important. You train them to interact in daily situations politely.

Teaching your children to use good manners is a simple way to instill respect and kindness.

Starting early and being consistent is the key. Here are the tips that can help you teach your kids good manners.

Always Use a Friendly Language

Your kids should learn to use polite phrases, and words right from the beginning. Teach your kids to say words such as Thank you, please, sorry, excuse me. You’re welcome. And so many others.

The best way to do it is to ensure that they hear you repeat these words daily in all relevant situations.

Chances are that they’ll keep forgetting, but you must keep reminding them. If you set the correct example for them, they’ll follow suit because children are masters at imitating. They’ll also start using these polite words without being pushed.

Always Choose Your Words Carefully

Are you the type of person who spits bile over something trivial? If you are like a ticking bomb waiting to explode, you are doing a disservice to your children.

It would be best if you were careful about the words you use when speaking, especially when you are mad.

Small children do not have the capability to filter what is suitable to say and what is not, and this can lead to many embarrassing situations.

Your Children can pick up almost every ugly word you use when you are pissed off and then say them out of context in front of your guests and their friends.

Your children will always see people who look different from other people and may ask or comment about those vast differences.

Use polite words to explain the situations to them. Do not judge. Do not criticize. Know your children are watching and taking notes. Children can embarrass you when you least expect it.

Fortunately, with practice and age, children learn to think twice before saying a word.

Meanwhile, explain to your kids that saying something mean or commenting on somebody’s appearance is hurtful. Let them understand that they can freely share their questions or thoughts with you once you are all alone later.

Train Your Children to Say Hello to Other People

Teaching your child to greet people nicely is an important social skill. Train them to maintain eye contact whenever they are speaking to someone. The best way to do so is to ask them to see a person’s eye color.

Let them know how to respond to simple greetings such as hello, good morning, good evening, and how are you? Teach them to answer these greetings in a manner that does not give too much personal information.

Teach your kids good table Manners

Whether you are dining out, eating at home, or having dinner with your close friends, good table manners are an integral part of every meal.

Teaching your children good table manners offers them crucial social interaction tools to serve them for a lifetime.

Good table manners you can teach your kids are;

  • Push your chair in when finished- push your chair against the table when they finish eating.
  • Never reach to get something- ask your table mate to pass it to you- never cross the table.
  • Pick up your plate and say thank you.
  • Wait until everybody is served before eating- you should wait until everybody has received their food and are seated.
  • Please wait for the host to unfold his napkin so that you unfold yours.
  • Always ask if you can help set the table- do not wait for other people to set.
  • Come to the table with your hands, and face clean.
  • Never stuff your mouth- they should take sizable bits and not guzzle down their food.
  • Do not interrupt when somebody else is speaking.
  • Put the napkin on the chair, never on the table.
  • Never, ever chew with your mouth open- should chew your food with your mouth closed.

Be consistent and exercise patience.

Manners make a man. And Learning good manners takes a lot of time. Praise your children when they remember to use good manners. When they forget, show them what they need to do politely and move past it. Strive to set an exceptional example for your children to follow.

Teaching your children good manners can test your patience. You might feel like you are not progressing and want to give up. But hey, do not throw in the towel yet. Keep on keeping on, and in the fullness of time, everything will fall into place.

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